“Mum, I hate this family and I hate you!” shouted from the actress. This is one of the scenes we usually see in the drama. Idiom also says, “Every family has a skeleton in the closet.” There are always conflicts exist in our lives among family members, even they are closed, blood-related.
The emotion may become complicated when people are dealing with family relationships while pursuing their own demands. Usually it is caused by the conflicts of faith and public interest, such as disagreement of outgoing from the parents. Further more, poor communication for sharing opinions is made after conflicts are occurred. Family members are either shy or over thinking of others thoughts so that they intentionally give up to express themselves. This results the acumination of conflicts and distrust among the members.
Although the emotional conflicts are complicated and uneasy to solve, achievement should be made to bring the benefit to every member. First, it is necessary to have good communication among the family members. Conversations should be made frequently during daily lives in the family. It will help the members to exchange their thoughts and feelings. Through the communication, it helps to clear the misunderstanding, build up common opinions and form the positive attitude to face the conflicts. On the other hand, it is important that people should show respect among each other even with closed relationship. Sometimes the argument just begins with one’s impulsion. Learning of tolerating others’ defects may help to ease the emotional tension. Learning of understanding and bestowal would be necessary to reduce the chances of arguments. Furthermore, taking attention on managing one’s own mood will help to ease the tension among the other members, as people will get influenced among each other. No one wants to start a fight while seeing a warmly smiling face on the other side.
On the whole, good communication, learning to control and managing individual’s mood will develop emotional intelligence, which will help to ease the conflicts between individual and the family. Love the family, no conflicts.
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Thanks for your hard work on the post of this "paragraph", Mengwei. I put quotation marks around it because it differs a bit from my expectations of a standard paragraph, and in fact, seems like an essay. For one thing, your thesis (topic sentence?) appears only at the end. (I have the distinct feeling that this piece of writing reflects typical Chinese rhetorical style. Am I wrong?)
In any case, let's talk about this.
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